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Seeing Through Fear
"I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain." -Frank Herbert, Dune, "Litany Against Fear", 1965 There is one main obstacle holding people from living the life of their dreams. All successful people have faced it at one time in their lives. Many of us are currently facing it now, and that is where the challenge lies. If we allow this one thing to stop us, then we will not know how to enjoy this game of life. We will constantly have one thing to blame or another. We become the victims of our life; not the source. However, if we go through this obstacle, we will come out the other side far more victorious than we could ever imagine ourselves to be. How do we go beyond it? The trick is to see the irony behind it. This one main obstacle is fear, and it comes to everyone due to our human situation. We all have the need to look good and be appreciated by people. Fear comes when we believe that what we are going to do will lead to a loss of appreciation from others and in us being wrong (not looking good). If we look at fear properly, we will see a very funny thing. Everyone is actually living in the very same way! We are all afraid of looking bad in front of others. We are so busy trying to look good and fix up our act that we don't realize that everyone else is doing the same thing. They are too busy fixing up their act to care about you. They are scared that they are going to be found out. So we have a cycle of fear in which the very thing that they fear doesn't exist! People are afraid of other people finding them out, but there are no people who are going to find out what you are hiding because they are too busy hiding their flaws! Do you see the irony of fear now? We forget that we are living this life and that we will never come through this way again. Why don't we live to our maximum potential? Why do we let small things like fears get in our way? Are we going to run our whole lives according to whether we are looking good to people? You are in charge of your life. How you live this life is up to you! It is your responsibility to start to pick up the pieces and start to go beyond this fear. No one is looking at you, they are all too scared to care. Once this cycle of fear breaks, through observation, you are free! Free to be what you want to be! You are now free to create your life the way you want it to be. "I want to help others get the most from this life by eliminating the fears that keep their lives small. This is one way I can live my biggest life. The life I choose to live." --Sukhbir S. Sukhbir is the founder of LifeApps! Personal Development International, Co., Ltd based in Thailand. His aim is to create an explosion in human potential all over the world by bringing in the message of the true freedom to human beings who have been trapped by an illusory picture of the world that affects how they are currently perceiving their reality. This aim is starting to bear fruit. He can be contacted at suk_b@yahoo.com.
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